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I’ve known so many people who still stay with their partners even though they’ve hurt them so many times. There are those girls who still stay even though they’ve been cheated on or they’ve been abused. Others ask “Why are you still with him?” let go and move on with your life.

In an attempt to answer the question above, I came up with five (5) reasons why women, who experienced these scenarios, still choose to stay.

1. “Maybe it’s just a phase”

• He’s not a child anymore. It’s not some phase he’ll just suddenly grow out of. When he’s hurt you once and he sees that you’re still there then what’s holding him back from doing it again?

2. “He came back to me”

• Yea. He did–again and again. Why does he keep coming back to you? Because you keep accepting him. You keep taking him back. In the long run you will be taken for granted. If you keep taking him back then you will think that every little wrong thing he does is acceptable now because “If I was able to forgive him for that big hurt he did to me, why can’t I forgive him now?” which is an unhealthy attitude in a relationship. It’s okay to forgive if it follows change afterwards. If there’s no change, then run away while you still can.

3. “We’ve been together for so long, we can’t give up now”

• Look at it this way, if you think that the years you’ve spent together will just come to waste if you leave him, then think about your future. You’ve already spent so many years with that jerk so why spend more? People change! If at the beginning of those years he’s been nothing but good to you, then as the years go by you see him change, you better know that the man he’s turning out to be is the man will most likely stay as.

4. “He says he loves me and he’ll change”

• The question is, how many times he said that? If he loves you, he shouldn’t have done something to hurt you and worse, do it more than once. A person who really loves you should know your worth and value you.

5. “I might not find anyone else like him”

• THAT’S THE POINT! Ladies, how else will he know your worth if you keep settling for the low version of your guy? How will he know your worth if you’re always right there when he comes back? Let him go. Go for the people who treat you the way you SHOULD be treated.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” -  Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower